So I was chattinging with Tom last night on AIM, and an intersting topic was brought up by him. He asked me my thoughts on open relationships and relationships that consist of 3 people. My initial response was that if that is what makes someone happy then there is nothing wrong with it. Apparently, that was not the answer he was looking for because he asked if I would ever do either. My response was I could never be in an open relationship and that I had nevere given the 3 people relationship a thought. So I inturn asked what his thoughts were and he said no to the open relationship and yes to the 3 people, he even said that him and Troy tried it once and would try it again, it just did not work before because of personal issues the third was having. I really did not know what to say to that, so my response was a simple, “interesting”. He then went to say I dont want to scare you off and I am not asking you anything I just like to know what peoples opinions are on that. I kind of made a joke out of that like yeah sure, you are just putting the thought in my head for later and we both kind of laughed and it was over. Of course me, one who analyzes things quite a bit wonders if that was a way of putting the thought in my head. Of course it did do just that, got me thinking about could I be in a relationship that involved 3 people. And I think I could if I was the one added in, it would be harder for me if I was one of the intial two to bring in a third person. Of course there would still be a lot of other things to consider, first and foremost who the people are. I would also want to make sure that I would not just always be “the third person”, it would have to be mutual all the way around, which I know it would not start that way but I would have to know that it could work its way to that. It would be hard for me at the begining because of this as well as not wanting to intrude, even though that is pretty much an invitation to intrude, haha. I also got to thinking how would I tell people that I was in a relationship with two people, but that thought ended quickly in the fact that I feel if I am happy I really dont care what other people think…..
Should be intersting to see what plays out if anything. Either way I am looking forward to getting to know both Tom and Troy because they both seem like great guys and I would love to become friends with them, and if that topic should come up kind of just make that decision as necessary, I am gonna try to just forget that was ever asked to me, but at least now I know what my answer would be to that general question….